Today I’m going to show you three wonderful reasons why you should learn to date yourself.
The first reason is simple. Sometimes we spend so much time with other people that we are afraid to be alone. We’re afraid to actually spend time getting to know ourselves, testing out things that we like to do or don’t like to do. The best way to find out what you don’t like to do is to try it and not do it again if you don’t like it. But if you never even get a chance to experience things independent of someone else’s joy or happiness you never really get a full idea of what you like. One of the ways that I work with my clients on developing a part of their identity is to actually test what they don’t like. You would be surprised how many women that I work with would spend their entire lives up until their 40s or 50s not knowing what they like to do independent of their children their spouse their friends.
The second reason is getting to enjoy your company. Why wouldn’t you want to learn how to be comfortable with yourself? I’m a person who will sit and watch movies, laugh out loud, read books, do all different types of things by myself, not just because I’m alone but because I actually enjoy my company. I’ve learned to enjoy my company because regardless of my great friendships and my wonderful husband, one of the things that I believe is that my best self in any relationship is how much I can take care of and love myself. What this does is it allows me to be comfortable with what I find funny, what I think my passions are or what I believe. There’s times where I will go and visit other churches or I’ll watch different topics just to see if it’s something that I enjoy. I learned to enjoy my own company and my own thoughts and processes about it. 1 and 2 kind of go together. You’re getting to enjoy your company while you’re getting to know yourself.
Last but not least, you are allowed to do what is considered a self check-in or a self exploration. Checking-in is asking yourself how you’re caring for yourself, making sure you enjoy your company, making sure you’re doing the things you want to do in life. Are you doing the things you really want to in life, or what the people in your life want to and expect you to do? One of the things that I’d love to do that my husband is not a big fan of is to dance. Whenever I find myself maybe deficient in that area or not doing it enough, I will take myself out dancing and or go to a dance class so that I can do what I enjoy and check-in with myself.
I say get out there and date and start by dating you!
