Today, I am getting ready to start our first week of WE CAN ALL BE FREE, which is a series about getting free and staying free. To end the year, I wanted to do something that was very specifically about empowering ourselves and preparing ourselves for a new year through acknowledging that we can all be free and getting started now. This first week is going to talk about What is holding you captive? I’m going to make this extremely formatted, almost like a class/educational tips, because I want to make sure that what I’m offering you is an opportunity to ask yourself some very clear questions, some thoughts behind those questions, and then an actual point at the end that will resolve the entire week’s discussion. This week’s question is, “What is holding you captive?” At the beginning, the first thing I’m going to do is ask you to ask yourself these following questions:
What lies are you telling yourself and calling them true?
What environment have you created around these lies?
What are you willing to do to get out from under these lies?
What are you telling yourself about these lies? Most of us do not acknowledge that we are usually somewhere between keeping ourselves comfortable with a lie and or denying that we even have an issue. What that means is we may not even recognize or believe that we have a problem when it comes to anger, fear, unforgiveness, anxiety, all of those things that come up when we talk about not being free. The first thing that you actually need to do is to determine what you are lying to yourself about. Then, why are you calling it the truth? Why is it more important that you hold on to a lie that you’re healthy or you don’t need any help or you’re “fine”. Why are you holding on to that when you can be free?
The second question is really important as well.
What environment have you created because of these lies? What types of things do you participate in? What do you invest your time in? What do you watch?
I’m always really wary of people who gossip a lot, because normally if they gossip a lot with you, they’ll gossip a lot about you and we’ve all heard that. But the truth is that that person may even be using that distraction of gossiping or talking about someone else to not do any self-evaluations or self-inventory that could help them to be better or place them into a better position. I’m going to tell you a secret when you are under pressure, when you are feeling down, when you are feeling angry or when you feel like somebody has you trapped in a corner. Be it intellectually, emotionally, physically. Usually what you let out tells me what really is within you.
When you think about the last time you were under some form of pressure, what was the first response? So this is a way for you to be able to see what lies you’re telling yourself, what was your first response? Sometimes people would say anger. Some people would say denial. Some people would say distraction. Some people would say fear. Whatever your first response was, that’s where you need to start considering your first level of healing. What your initial response to being under pressure is will help you to identify some of the areas that you are lying to yourself about.
How do you break free? The first thing you need to do is identify what lies you’re telling yourself. The second thing you need to do is to determine what new things you need to do instead of those lies or new people you might need to have in your life in terms of a negative environment. That also brings us to that third one, which is to create a new environment that nurtures, joy, peace, patience, and forgiveness of self and others. Being able to really identify what lies you’re telling yourself, determine what new things you would have to do to actually be free and to not tell these lies to yourself and then create an environment that actually nurtures and breeds a level of freedom naturally.
What I try to do each day is read positive things that make me feel good, but also things that I believe, so I made sure I read the word of God. I made sure that I read books and self-development tips. I make sure that I read affirming statements about myself and my current and present self and understanding that as I’m growing in my freedom, I am allowed to make errors and mistakes and that this is a process. I need you over this next week to consider these questions: What lies are you telling yourself and calling them true?, What environments have you created because of those lies; and when you are under pressure, what is your initial output of emotion so that you can know what, what, where you need to start when it comes to getting free?
Remember, you can’t experience freedom until you know exactly what is holding you captive.